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I love my boyfriend. I love him so much, but something got in the way of me really loving him.
That amazing bliss we felt at the beginning of our relationship felt like sunshine, teddy bears and chocolate cake all rolled up in one. It’s was like being an angel in heaven, flying through the clouds.
I thought our relationship was made in heaven and he was the man that was going to meet all of my needs.
We moved to Thailand together. I got really sick and my sickness lasted for three months. It was difficult to get better. It was like I was in some weird sickness loop. I hardly had any energy. I got grumpy and depressed.
This affected my relationship with my boyfriend. I love my boyfriend, but I didn’t have the energy and the patience to do what it takes to create a happy relationship.
Our Relationship Started Falling Apart
In fact, I started doing many things that created an unhappy relationship. I started complaining and crying a lot. I got upset with my boyfriend for the littlest things. We started to fight often, which made me feel even sicker.
I felt like our relationship was falling apart. The lips that used to speak words of love to me were now speaking words of criticism and frustration. I started to turn away from my boyfriend and he started to turn against me. Where was all the love we used to feel for each other?
Because I was sick I had an expectation that my boyfriend should take care of me. I wanted HIM to take care of me, instead of me taking care of myself. I wanted every ounce of love and attention he could give me as I was coughing and whining in my sick bed.
I was very demanding and this pushed him away. The more he turned away from me the more devastated I became. I had very bad feelings towards him and I thought he should go into sacrifice to take care of me.
Expecting him to meet all of my needs was actually holding back the relationship. This got in the way of me loving him.
Changing My Attitude
I needed to do something quick to change my attitude.
Right around this time I had the luxury of interviewing Gyan Almira Terra, counselor and relationship coach from Brazil. According to Gyan, most relationships are actually “relation-sheeps.”
Just as sheep look and beg for food from its owner, people in romantic relationships tend to take from their partner. “Relation-sheeps” always fail because people are thinking, “Give me, give me, give me.” When we are in a space of taking, relationships fail.